Occasionally I notice myself being rude to others without intending it. I had one such encounter the other day, for example, while pouring myself a coffee at work.
A coworker in the kitchen with me, a guy who sits on the opposite side of the office, said, "Hey, long time, no see!"
"That's as it should be," I replied.
And I didn't realize how rude my remark seemed until a moment later, when he said, "How dare you!"
I smiled at him and chuckled. I hoped he hadn't interpreted my remark to mean that I wish for him to stay away, or that I dislike him. At the time, all I meant was that I enjoy not being seen, that it's good not to be noticed for long periods of time. I meant what I said, but I was trying to say it in a joking way. My methods failed. They often do.
It's my own fault, I guess, if I'm misunderstood. Even though I try to say what I mean, I do so very poorly. I sometimes have no tact.
Maybe it's for the best that my coworker doesn't see me often.